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It’s 2020, and in an era of increasing political correctness, we’ve seen it all when it comes to interracial relationships. People of color are getting shamed for dating outside of their race.

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Furthermore, Asian men are actively shaming other Asian men for dating non-Asian.

It seems like no matter which way you look at it, someone’s got something to say about your relationship and what they think you should be doing.

And of course a disclaimer, this isn’t targeted at every single Asian male. Most Asian men I know are not only empathetic, but very tolerant and accepting of interracial relationships. This article is targeted to a vocal few who have been trolling the interwebs.

But why?

When it comes to WMAF relationships, there’s a lot of commentary, both good and bad. When I first entered the scene a decade ago, a lot of that commentary was centered around the nasty messages Asian women would get about why Asian guys were so inferior (Don’t they have small dicks? Why would you pick him?) or around a niche community of Asian women who refused to acknowledge Asian men. It was a mess on both sides, and it was toxic.

Thankfully I don’t see as much of that these days, but with the increasing amounts of acceptance and thus WMAF relationships, what I am seeing more of is Asian men criticizing WMAF relationships and attempting to shame the Asian women involved in them.

It’s been a mystifying roller coaster to see an evolution from one side of the spectrum to another, and I’ve noticed that the criticism seems to be centered around one of two things:

Number one is bitterness. Asian men who have been unsuccessful in the dating game and who see girls of their race choosing other men, especially other White men.

Number two is betrayal. Men who view dating out as a rejection of Asian-ness.

Number three is White supremacy & self-hatred. Men who view Asian women who date out as a confirmation that Asian women are falling into the White supremacy mindset, and because they hate their own race.

Neither of these things are helpful to anyone (although we’ll talk about the last one in a bit).

Attacking someone else’s relationship because it represents something you don’t have is nothing more than an old-fashioned case of sour grapes. Maybe you’re jealous because you’ve got trouble with women. Maybe you’re jealous because you just like Asian women and it upsets you to see them with someone else. Whatever the case may be, attacking another Asian woman because she’s dating a White man isn’t going to help improve your relationship game. You need to examine why you’re having trouble with relationships, and it isn’t because some other guy is having success on “your” turf.

So you realize you’re one of the Asian guys that have these feelings. Now what?

Now assuming you aren’t just a racist piece of shit, there’s probably reasons why you’re feeling this way.

Let’s tackle the betrayal aspect first.

First of all, there are PLENTY of Asian women to go around. As a man you inherently have an advantage because as you age your dating pool actually becomes larger instead of smaller — assuming you are doing things that are raising your value as a man (like having a good career and becoming smarter & more assured of yourself over time).

And considering that males and females are apretty even 50/50 split in this world, it just means there’s a White girl or a girl of another ethnicity open for you to date.

Unless you’re living in China (where men outnumber women by 40 million+), there are plenty of single women out there, and opening up your horizons to include women of other ethnicities is key to finding the right girl for you.

(Editor’s note – I do hear a lot of Asian men in San Francisco face issues because the city has more men than women. If you’re facing this in your city, you should absolutely move. It’s always better to live a happy life than to make money and suffer.)

Look, I get it. It’s easy to lash out at other people when you feel like they’ve sold out or rejected you, but that’s not what WMAF relationships are. People start dating each other because they like each other, they’re attracted to each other, and they have things in common. About 50 years ago that wasn’t socially acceptable. But it’s 2019 and we’re no longer socially encumbered by those restrictions. If an Asian woman is dating a White man, it’s generally because he likes her and she likes him.

And of course, hapas are extremely attractive, and the more WMAF relationships are out there, the more sexy hapas you can date. I’m the product of a WMAF relationship, and I actually love dating Asian men.

But beyond the betrayal mindset, we have to attack the underlying issue behind why you’re also bitter. For most guys it’s because you can’t get a date. Guys in happy relationships don’t think or complain about WMAF.

To begin down this road, you have to be slightly self-reflective.

You need to admit that Asian girls dating White men isn’t what’s causing your dating problems.

The real problem is you lack mate value.

Ask yourself a few of these quick questions.

1 – Have you had a 3rd party assess how well you dress?

And when I mean “assess,” I mean get an opinion from a professional.Most guys have never gotten advice from someone who actually knows how to dress, they simply rely on their own opinions. That’s like Donald Trump making decisions for the United States without asking his advisors.

Three quick elements to putting together an outfit – wear clean shoes, a regular (non-graphic) tee, and well-fitted darker color jeans. DO NOT wear baggy jeans.

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2 – Do you have a hairstyle that’s trendy?

No, the Asian bowlcut doesn’t count. Go to a barber, not SuperCuts, and ASK them what kind of haircut they would recommend for your facial shape and hair texture.

Pompadours, undercuts, and a simple Google search for “top trendy haircuts for men 2019” are your best friend.

3 – Do you have a lot of friends?

Most guys who can’t get a date also don’t have a lot of friends.

Here’s a tip. Don’t avoid the friend-zone with girls. Use women as a sounding board to help increase your mate value, as women can give you advice on your look and why you’re not getting any girls. Don’t have an ego, ask them straight up what tips they would have for you to get a girlfriend.

4 – Are you even getting out of the house and socializing?

So many of the guys complaining are the same guys who are keyboard jockeys simply staying at home and posting things on Reddit. Stop sitting in front of the keyboard and start hitting up social events in your area.

5 – Are you working out and taking care of your body?

Not only does working out help you release endorphins, it’s been proven that it helps people become more confident. Start slowly by working out and figuring out a diet plan that will work for your lifestyle.

By doing the assessment of the previous 5 things, and ACTING on them, you can increase your mate value to the point where you will definitely be able to get a girl.

White supremacy / Self-hatred

The last thing I’ll tackle on is the guys who criticize the Asian women for dating out because of problematic beliefs on White supremacy. Namely they feel that Asian women are dating out due to being colonized by the White majority / Hollywood.

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There’s some merit to this argument, but the problem is women who get called out on this way are generally not going to take it very well. Just imagine if the roles were reversed, and you got called out for something, you’d probably be very defensive as well.

Lastly, if they ARE indoctrinated into the cult of White supremacy, then it’s pretty hard to get someone out of that. An increase of bashing in the Asian community is only gonna cause more and more Asian women to go the other way.

And once women fall into that self-hatred mindset, it’s up to them to come out of it. And the way to do that is to make it “cool” to be Asian and make it cool to date Asian men.

Telling them that they’re just self-hating White worshippers is going to make them fall deeper into White supremacy as they feel more antagonized by Asian men.

Listen, I know that things are still changing, and I know that as things continue to change our attitudes, beliefs, and actions will change with them. I know that being critical of WMAF relationships is both a rejection of something new and unknown and an attempt to cling to the past, but that’s just it: times are changing. This is no longer the era of impoverished women from Southeast Asia marrying foreign nationals twice their age in an attempt to get a green card, and to act like it is is insulting. Whatever your reasons for being critical of WMAF relationships are, be it bitterness or a sense of betrayal, bickering and infighting isn’t going to change it, it isn’t going to stop it, and it isn’t going to help Asian men rise above.

If we want to succeed in continuing to make the world a better place for Asian men to live in, fighting over relationships is not the way to do it. In the spirit of welcoming in 2019, leave those ugly scars behind you.

EDITOR’s NOTE, I also really liked Joe from JK films commentary on this issue, so I added it here.

Written by Cindy Young

Japanese Men Dating White Girls

Yes, Asian girls like white guys. It’s a fact. You may wonder why do Asian girls like white guys so much!

This is a common stereotype but still has some basis in our experience.

This plays out both online (check out our list of the top interracial dating sites if you want to know more) or in the real world.

Here are the top 10 reasons we have found to give you a better understanding of Asian women and yourself!

Why Do Asian Girls Like White Guys

The top 10:

  1. There are more gentlemen among white guys than Asian guys.

In traditional Asian culture, the concept of “gentleman” doesn’t exist. Historically, there was no real gentleman in Asia, because in that part of the world, men were superior to women for thousands of years.

But in western countries, there are many more gentlemen everywhere, and Asian women are amazed by white guys who are real gentlemen, because they never had such beautiful experiences in their home countries.

Gentlemen look after women, care about others and are more classy in general.

In contrast, traditionally, Asian men expect women to be their maids and servants. A typical Asian man thinks he is the boss in the family, hence he deserves his wife’s respect and doesn’t need to respect his wife!

Asian men’s lack of respect leads to Asian women’s lack of interest.

Therefore, when Asian girls like white guys because they feel respected and looked after by you, of course they like you, white guys!

2. White men are more exotic, which arouses Asian women’s curiosity.

When you think Asian women are exotic, Asian women also think you are exotic at the same time! It’s a mutual feeling.

Some white guys have been to Asian countries. For instance, when you go to China, Chinese women look at you all the time, because they are curious about white guys.

Curiosity results in attention, and attention is the prerequisite of attraction.

You need to understand that as a white guy, you have a big advantage, i.e. your looks can really get Asian women’s attention, simply because you are western.

It’s not that Asian girls like white guys just because they are white (I’ve explained that in my previous articles). Anyway, you still need to remember that being white makes you different (at least on surface level).

If you learn something about the Asian aesthetic standards, you will see that the contemporary Asian culture considers a face with western features to be good-looking. There are so many Asian celebrities who look quite western (e.g. Leehom Wang, David Wu, Coco Lee, etc.)

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Also, Asian women like to have fair skin, as evidenced by the “whitening” skin-care products they use ALL THE TIME. Almost every high-end cosmetics brand has at least one whitening range for Asian consumers, because whitening skin-care products are always the best-sellers in Asian countries.

As a result, as a white guy, you already have fair skin, so surely that’s an advantage.

3. White men are generally more loving, caring and understanding.

A lot of Asian men think they don’t need to show their loving and caring side, as long as they make a lot of money. But that’s so wrong.

Asian women need love and affection, not just money.

White guys seem to understand human dynamics better, so white guys tend to spend more time with their girlfriends, which makes white guys more loving and caring.

Asian women are attracted to qualities like these, because they don’t get it from Asian men.

White guys genuinely care about how their girlfriends feel, do fun and romantic activities with their women, and cuddle their girlfriends after having sex.

By contrast, Asian men believe their money and status are way more important than these kind gestures – that’s why Asian men are gradually losing Asian women’s favor.

Let’s have a close look at the sex scene (I know this is probably a bit of an exaggeration, but you’ll get the gist):

* An Asian man is having sex with an Asian woman (foreplay part) –

HIM: Pushes her head towards his private parts as quickly as possible.

HER: Has to do whatever she is told to do.

* A western man is having sex with an Asian woman (foreplay part) –

HIM: Starts to talk to her in a loving way an hour before sex.

HER: Really enjoys the connection.

HIM: The physical foreplay lasts for one hour.

HER: Ready to be penetrated and wants to be penetrated.

So the conclusion is: having sex with a western man is far more enjoyable than having sex with an Asian man who doesn’t understand how to do it properly.

4. White men’s endowment is greater.

Needless to say, white men are very lucky to have greater endowment than Asian men, and Asian men know it!

I’ve heard many Asian men complaining, “Oh, my god! I don’t feel confident. How can I compete with white guys in the bedroom?” Indeed, they are worried that their penises are too small.

If you have lived in Asia, you would know that condoms have different sizes in supermarkets and drugstores. For example, most condoms made in Japan are 52mm, whereas only a limited proportion of condoms are 55mm.

I know this probably sounds unfair and slightly obnoxious, but it’s a fact: Most Asian men only buy the smallest condoms.

A white erection can be nearly twice as big as an Asian erection.

5. White men are more worldly and experienced.

We know that most Asian men are good at math and are generally good students at school, but being a straight A student doesn’t make an Asian man more attractive later on in life.

Compared with Asian men, white men are more knowledgeable when it comes to what’s actually going on in the world, and usually white men have more experience in terms of travel. (I’m not saying this is a scientific rule; I mean it’s a likelihood.)

I know comparing men like this won’t make me more popular, yet the fact that we constantly avoid comparison means we are afraid of saying the brutal truth.

Therefore, I’ve decided not to say things that people want to hear; instead, I tell some ugly truths once in a while.

Indeed, being more worldly and experienced is incredibly attractive from Asian women’s perspective, because most Asian women value growth. If you demonstrate your love for knowledge and experiences, Asian women will like you more.

6. Asian girls like white guys because they enjoy a more stimulating lifestyle.

Many Asian women prefer white men because of the interesting lifestyle: white men have more hobbies, more interests and more fun things going on in life.

However, Asian men tend to be more boring – they are busy at work, busy working, busy with their business/busyness! In a way, it shows Asian men’s insecurity, as they think their money and status give them validation and get them women.

Yet white men are way more balanced: they understand “All work and no play makes Jack a dull boy.”

Dating white men means going to sports events, concerts, movies, exotic trips, etc., whereas dating Asian men means the boring “dinner-and-movie” date which makes Asian women yawn.

Being in a long-term relationship with a white man means quite often there is a “date night”, while being in a long-term relationship with an Asian man often means he doesn’t need to maintain and nurture the relationship anymore.

7. White men understand women better.

Most Asian men never had the education about female psychology or women in general – they never learned any of these at school or at home.

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Nevertheless, white men learned a lot about relationships since middle school, because it’s okay to have girlfriends when you are at school (and it’s completely normal and allowed). But having girlfriends is not allowed in Asian high schools, so Asian men didn’t learn it through their own experiences (don’t blame them; blame their education system, please.)

Besides, white men who were brought up by western parents witnessed the positive interaction between their parents (if the parents have had a healthy marriage): In a western family, the top priority of all relationships is the relationship between the husband and the wife.

But in a typical Asian family, the most important relationship in a family is the relationship between parents and children.

* This is what happens when a typical western man arrives at home:

He hugs his wife first, and then hugs his children.

* This is what happens when a typical Asian man arrives at home:

He hugs his children first (if children are still in kindergarten), and that’s all.

White men generally understands women’s needs better – women need to be loved; women need to be touched; women need to be adored.

8. Being with a white man makes life easier than being with an Asian man in a western country.

Let’s be honest, white men are the majority in western countries. If you are a white male, you probably have no reason for not being successful, because living in a western country as a white male gives you every resource you need in order to be successful.

Nonetheless, being a woman, an Asian in a western country is in the minority group. I certainly don’t like racism, but racism still exists to some degree, no matter I like it nor not.

In other words, if a woman, an Asian, wants to be successful in a western country, A LOT MORE EFFORTS must be made. Sorry for the capital letters, but it’s true.

I’ve seen many Asian women who are married to Asian men and they live in a western country. Life is surely not easy for them – finding employment, establishing a business, building their network….everything is harder. That’s why Asians work very hard and have to be smart in order to be successful.

Yet Asian women who are married to white men can relax a bit, because white men are already the mainstream of the society.

9. White men appreciate Asian women’s beauty.

I have an Asian female friend who used to live in Taiwan. She told me that women in Taiwan are the world’s most fashion-conscious women, because the competition is increasingly stiff in this regard – every woman wants to look the best.

I couldn’t help but wonder: Why do Asian women work so hard to look pretty?

Besides, women in South Korea are obsessed with plastic surgeries.

And honestly, at least 60% of my Asian female friends have had some plastic surgeries!

Then I realized that Asian men have very high standards when it comes to women’s beauty. Asian men don’t care about their own looks, but they require their girlfriends to look like models.

The majority of Asian men choose girlfriends based on how pretty they are.

In contrast, white men are more likely to value women’s intelligence and character traits, and they think a beautiful mind is equally important.

Many years ago, when I was with an Asian man, this was what actually happened whenever there was an important event that I must attend with him:

Let’s say the event started at 7pm. At 5pm, he would call me and say, “Did you go to the beautician’s to get your makeup and hair done?”

“Oh, I haven’t done it.” I replied.

“What?!” he became furious.

“I can do it at home by myself.” I replied.

But when my date was a white man later on, simply wearing lipstick got his frequent compliments.

Better still, I went out with a white guy who even said, “I like your long hair and your red dress. You are irresistible.” – very simple. I didn’t even wear makeup, and I didn’t get my hair done either.

10. White guys are more open-minded.

Not every Asian woman wants to have children.

So if an Asian woman doesn’t want kids, it’s highly unlikely for her to marry an Asian man, because almost every Asian man wants to start a family.

I still remember more than ten years ago when the movie “How to lose a guy in ten days” was popular, a few Asian friends asked me, “Why does the woman in the movie use marriage to scare him? Don’t men look forward to being married?”

“Western men have this fear of commitment.” I explained.

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“But Asian men like getting married and have children.” They were pretty certain.

Therefore, Asian women who don’t want to have kids prefer white men who share the same vision.

Now why do Asian girls like white guys has been explained very clearly, so you are equipped with the knowledge and understanding of the interracial relationship that you desire.

(Disclaimer: The author has no intention to put down Asian men in this article, so please regard certain comments as humor; the author is just pointing out white men’s strengths in this piece, thereby showing you the reasons why do Asian girls like white guys. The author has also pointed out Asian men’s strengths in other articles.)

(Jade Seashell is a creativity adviser and seduction strategist. She regularly writes at www.jadeseashell.com)

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